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Gossip is very low, vibrant thought like gray, dirty colour in aura of human.
I avoid these kind of people just by scanning their energy.
It would be great to picture all employees with Kirlian camera to see how ''beautiful'' they are.

Ina Matijevic
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I like the idea of having the gossip say things to the person's face. I personally was the victim of a malicious gossip and I decided to start confronting him every time something came back to me. It was funny how he actually went and complained to the boss about it, stating he would not be "treated that way". I told my boss that all the guy had to do was stop saying false things behind my back, it was that simple. Eventually I moved on to a better position but I learned something: People like to get away with things and will so long as you let them. Confronting them is best but be prepared for them to act like the victim when confronted with the ugliness of their behavior. They'll thrash around like a fish in a net but in the end they look foolish.

On the flip side, it's a free country and you can say what you want. Sometimes you need to vent but I think that kind of thing is best done away from the office. There's nothing worse than two people whispering in a corner somewhere, it makes them look like cowards. If you have a problem with someone, tell them. I realize there are times when nothing can be done because the boss won't correct the person, if that's the case you have to formulate a plan to move on to bigger and better things. Don't go down with a sinking ship.

Gossip was one of the reasons that helped me to step out there and start my own businesses. Although I always wanted to work for myself anyway, it did give me just one more reason to go for it. So far so good :-)

Gossip is normally done with an alterior motive in mind. It's mostly used to step on someone elses back to make oneself look good. Its a part of corporate America that each of us will be subjected to at some point in our careers.

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Where is your sense of humor? Do you remember the song "Harper Valley PTA?"
...It's reported you've been wearing your dresses way too high... another nipped on
alcohol... What about the "ladies" at the country club, knitting club, and after or
before church starts on Sunday? They don't gossip?

I have a large family, and not a week goes by when one relative isn't talking to
another relative because of something he or she said about them. The next
time I call the "offended person" I get, "Oh, that's over with! Where have YOU
been?" Then they talk about ME!

This gives me the chance to exercise my wit and sense of humor. I'm very
good at this. I always calm the other person(s) and get them to laugh.
And they must LOVE my humor because none of them has stopped calling
me.

The way I see it, if you're not being talked about you may be 1) boring
2) dead or 3) living in a closet somewhere in the mountains.

Besides, if people didn't gossip, what would the customers waiting in line
at the grocery store have to read? What, no gossip tabloids?"
I guess they'll have to rely on the internet. There's always plenty of gossip
in the chat rooms.

To us, there is a difference. Rumors' with no factial basis really has no place...anywhere.
Not just in the work-place. However, how about a lawsuit that a firm may be engaged in with other employee's? Is this gossip or bad produvtivity in the work place? There are employers that will ban work related topics.

To stimulate work conversations and engage in developing relationships may be the same as gossip or just talking at work with other employee's...just human nature. Are the firms in jepordy have banning personal relationsgips by banning gossip? Is that counter-productive?

Why would we...want to be counter-productive. To encourage more inspiration and productivity in the work-place. But, rumors should never enter...it could be a very mean spirited work-force and should be dealt with one on one with the culprits by it's managment in it's private boardroom.

This is an interesting one... everyone does it at some time or another. Some people are "taught" by their mothers, and other adults, to gossip. I was taught the opposite because people made up horrible lies about my mother because she had dark skin, growing up in the mid-west. And, my father was persecuted, as well, because his sister was severely disabled - long before autism became mainstream. I understood their suffering, and so I try to build people up, rather than knock them down. It's just as easy to say something positive about people, as it is to rake them through the coals.

I've noticed that women will gossip about other women who are pretty or successful because they are jealous. Same with men. Men will make up lies about other men, or, about women who are pretty or successful because that woman has no interest in them. Men can do some pretty big damage, as well.

I have actually worked for businessmen, with a lot of clout, who have gotten pretty far by making disparaging remarks about others. They are dangerous! They are respected for the work that they do so people automatically believe that they wouldn't possibly tell dirty tales about others. They make **it up sometimes... just to get it out there about another person...a competitor, perhaps... or, about someone who might be doing well... someone whom they feel doesn't deserve to have what they have, or better... so, they set out to destroy that person. They do not keep the oath that they have taken for confidentiality. One businessman that I worked for, would tell one client... "Now, please don't mention this to anyone, but so-and-so is having an affair with so-and-so." Or, he would give out tid-bits of confidential information about one client's business affairs to another. Really dirty! He would swear everyone to secrecy so nobody knew that he was talking about the other, while, meanwhile, he was talking to everyone about everyone! I won't even say what line of business this guy was in, but he was a sick, demented individual! Disgusting!

Eventually, that type of behavior blows up in a person's face! I don't know if Mr. Personality has hit the wall yet, but, it will happen... and, when it does... oh, boy! I'm just glad that I'm not anywhere near it! Because if you are the low person on the totem pole, working for such a destructive person... that person will find a way to place the blame on the pleeb. He threw me under the bus...all the time! He would make up things about me to deflect from the crap he was doing. It took me a while to catch on, but, eventually, I put the puzzle together once I finally began to ask people what the hell was going on! Happens all the time! Blame the secretary! People aren't falling for that so much, any more. People are being forced to be held accountable for their own deeds.

It seems that people are a bit more thoughtful about not believing everything that they hear. I think that more people are becoming more empathetic, and, when they hear horrible things about others, they take the time to find out the truth...rather than passing along the lies...in order to ruin a person's reputation.

It's pretty simple... treat others the way you would like to be treated. Eventually, you will find others who feel the same. Unfortunately, some people feel entitled, for whatever reason, and feel that they can treat people with less money or prestige, like pond scum. Joke's on them! They are the ones who look like the greed mongering, shallow idiots!

But, if you are the type of person who thinks that honest, nice people are boring... just keep hiring lying, scheming ****s, whom you can never trust... and, who will talk crap about the boss every chance they get. Guess it's all about what you want surrounding you. As a boss, you set the tone for the office. Employees, often, follow the boss's lead.

I think the better you feel about yourself, the less you feel like gossiping, period.





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Gossip is like poison in a workplace. The best thing I ever saw to eliminate it was a policy where a banner saying "2 FOR 1" was placed in the office. This was to remind everyone that you were welcome to give one piece of gossip or criticism but FIRST you had to say 2 nice things about the person you are going to gossip about or criticize. Usually when someone is gossiping- they would rather die than say anything nice first so it eliminates it almost entirely. This was also suggested to have in your home if children/teenagers/adults are being too critical of each other.

If true, the elimination of gossip from hospitals would improve patient care, nurse retention, and overall productivity. Perhaps, this would save hospitals' millions of dollars and improve overall healthcare.

http://jessicabond.blogspot.com/2008/03/hospital-gossip.html

Jessica Bond
Medical Careerist

Careful with extreme policies aimed at unreasonable political/social correctness: "Law and Order! I often think that they're the root of all of our miseries on earth." Henrik Ibsen "Ghosts"

In college there was a communications class that defended having business- place gossip. Interestingly enough I have left several good jobs because of gossip about myself. The course described gossip as an engine for change, a starting point for interpersonal relations within the office. Even though it is difficult for me I had to realize two things 1) It helped me alter the little things that were holding me back in my job, or if they got personal, in my life and 2) I most likely did or said something that spurned the gossip in the first place! In a job such as the one I held at a five diamond resort, the comments flew and now I'm ready to approach it with a new perspective about myself. I have to trust my coworkers and supervisors remarks because they are my compact mirror of the way I am perceived. It's much easier getting rumors started by them than a customer who is paying over $100 for a meal and tipping me! How personal the comments get is dependent on how much you are wearing your heart on your sleeve. I'd rather not , as you said on Larry King's show, realize the vindictiveness of rumors, because it fuels the fire, and tempts you to do the same. Seems like I'm ready to "walk the walk" with my new mission statement. But, Mr. Trump, can you? Michele

So long as sustainable employment is scarce there will be gossip in the office. This is not something I support, but its a fact of life.

Gossip may be bad for morale but it's good for punctuality. Why the hell would I want to go to work to be penned into a cubicle smaller than a prison cell-- and both without windows-- for twelve plus hours a day crunching Excel documents so that a CEO can go golfing and cutting deals with buddies over $100 filet mignons. Never mind the $500 bottle of wines. Screw that! Gossip brings sanity to the workplace. It's much like that female soldier who was pictured smiling with corpses and tortured prisoners in the Abu Ghraib scandel. Her smiling and our gossiping is a COPING mechanism to deal with unpleasant environments. Neither Lynddie England or American workers want to be in their putrid situations (Iraqi prison camps and American corporate camps, respectively) but WE HAVE TO.

Bring the gossip on. If you bring us face to face I'll tell you what I said behind your back: I like your hair style.

Ive always steered clear of it at work, but your right it seems inevitable. AT the Library the worst believe it or not, big problem, in town shopping.... the mall Is it iHoard Don thats Gossip game? Thank god for Red Bull lol. Really annoying and i agree unproductive.

Great idea and i think its admirable to bann it... lets see if it works.... in my own way, which 50% of the time seems to work, is to put them immediately in that position, or belittle the gossiper by indicating thats bad behavior. With oh i dont think you should do that, or lets be honest... Im often in the eye of gossip and there almost always wrong. If i know something i keep it to myself i never discuss it i can not believe the behavior. Seems alotof jealousy... isnt that for kids? at that point if its an obvious cat fight i might reply while laught rrrrreeeerrrrrr lol
sometimes it works, sometimes it just explodes lol. If they explode well makes them look bad for starting it in the first place right? lol.

On second thought....

Im not sure its gossip for this i call a solution, Indirect ways to discuss an issue without gossiping... a nickname instead of a persons name or gesture... it suggests the gossip without directly naming it..... sometimes this is off too, but two people communicated a problem by not saying it directly... thats better... the only problem is without being direct
be prepared on how to respond to inaccuracy... thats the tricky part.

The more loving and giving you are the more beautiful you become.
Donald it would be a great role on your behalf to indicate the ugliness of gossip,
maybe more men would open up about it and deny a female the viciousness of gossip and betrayal. It is neverending and for the firstime some men around me have become
"witness" to its true ugliness... the only way to prevent it is for men to suggest how much they hate it. that would be the end of it.

Be kind to one another. k.

Interesting experiment this one of banning gossip in the office.

I love the topics I see you choose: gossip... or like before in if we lie or not...

Is reality not relative... so, who lies?... Is Truth not the path to perfection possibly all of us aim to find and follow?.

I like what calls for your attention. I love the feeling of learning from you. I thank you : )

Gossip, you bring up. Exactly that thought in that office has detoured me from the lazy temptation of my gossiping: "Would I tell this thing to this person in her/his face?... If not, it must not be very constructive, right? so, what's the benefit?"... The interesting part is that not allowing myself to go there for gossip, I look to find what I DO like -and could say to the person directly.... Feels good (hormones-wise), keeps me smiling, keeps people smiling around me -and that holds my joy and smiles even longer... Like a re-directed energy.... If one CAN'T gossip - because it becomes easier- one might choose to admire, instead! ; )

I would work out GREAT in that firm; I would HAVE no problem saying anything I have to SAY to anyone’s FACE. When it comes to the polices that I believe are BEING undermined in this country EVERYDAY, I feel more people OUGHT to tell it like it really is, that would give more people more ideas ON HOW TO SOLVE some of our difficult social dilemmas. The problem with gossip is that rarely does anyone tell you anything of substance, the solution is telling people what you think TO their face, but then we will need another policy on WORKPLACE violence. My case in point, if that woman who has been harassing my husband and I via the telephone were an EMPLOYEE there could be a recourse that was legal to take. But when someone is preying on you or your family, sometimes the only recourse available is to STATE with clarity what the problem is, and how you believe it ought to be resolved. In the last few days I have been furious with my husband for not dealing with this matter effectively 6 months AGO, then at last he placed a call to her last night and TOLD her to stop calling him or me because it was "distressing his wife". It wasn’t much, but I hope she will listen and STOP calling us! Since I work from home having a disturbance such as that can really RUIN my productivity for a day or so. I know that large policy firms, and publishing companies are plagued with people who love to gossip as a hobby. I prefer to work from home, and would not like a workplace like that; it would really****me off! When your working on a project, or idea it is really important to have your attention on that project if you want the maximum performance. This is why I get so upset with my husband when his life spills over into my environment to produce a negative emotion. As a writer and researcher it is good to be inspired, but those sorts of games, and then the insanity that follows rarely inspire me. Since the fight over that woman began he has started working 12 hour days, I guess that’s a good thing, a little transparent, but good just the same. If people cannot discuss a grievance, it will fester, and a festering grievance leads to anger in the home, or in the workplace. Gossip my just be a release valve for people to keep them sane, I never feel good after I engage in it, but I do feel better once I take a honest look at what my true emotions really are around ANY issue.
Having any way to re-work a conflict is BETTER THAN NO WAY AT ALL! Gossip is just one of the many release valves people select, there are many more out there!
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I like this quote:
"Gossip is very low, vibrant thought like gray, dirty colour in aura of human.
I avoid these kind of people just by scanning their energy.
It would be great to picture all employees with Kirlian camera to see how ''beautiful'' they are."

-Ina Matijevic

I agree with Ina, gossip is low, and dirty, but so are people. We have a dirty color to our humanity, I think, and in those shades of gray we are stuck. Anger, gossip, hatred, it is all the same. Many of the "stories" in our modern media, amount to anything more. One of the key and critical points to my work here "in the power of a single e-mail" is to demonstrate how some of our releases or "drips" of human emotion, that revolve around those emotions seriously undermine our family units, and the county as a whole. While I can not just come out and "say" that, or "write" that it is my hope that readers will read that body of work and conclude this on their own. The political engine we have failed to manage, thrives on that form of "energy", this makes us look silly to the rest of the world. When we look silly to the rest of the world, it makes global business more difficult. People are all beautiful, and when we accept people, and cultures as they are, without molding them, or bending them to suit our needs, or concept of humanity or culture we will not be the target of global gossip. Being the target of gossip in the rest of the world is perhaps one of the worse parts of being an American today, a feature that we really could change, (if more people understood) what it is that we have traded it for.

Tammie Coffey
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